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Current wife - 13 years...

I think it depends on the age of the couple.  If you have two 16 year olds who are dating, I think a year would be considered long term.  If you go any further back than that, they may have just been too young to date.

On the other hand, if you're in your eighties, a year might seem like nothing, (or it may seem like all you've got left).

Who knows?  I guess I'll just say a steady, committed year at any age could fall into the category of "long term".  But, it really can depend on the couple. 

Aaron and I have been together about six years.

I have no opinion.

The class was about as mixed as Unplugged, so I'm curious to how the views differ. Malkin, that's what I was thinking too. A year of dating in high school is a long time, considering there had only been a few years of dating opportunity in those people's lives.

In the context of the day's lessons, though, a year wouldn't be nearly enough time. The speaker spent the day discussing the cycle of love, how people begin in love (this period lasts up to little over a year), and then go through a difficult period where the "zing" starts to wear off and they start noticing little things that irritate them in the relationship. After this part of the cycle, they reach the "stable" relationship, which is around 2 years. It's where there's still the zing, but its no longer the entirely idealistic head-over-heels love.

What she was looking for, I think, was people who hadn't experienced this whole cycle, because she abbreviated a lot of things expecting that we all understood it from experience. Probably at least a fourth of the class hadn't made it beyond the "in love" or the difficult stages, though (I wish I could remember the name of the difficult middle stage). In high school it seemed like the general mentality was that once the "in love" stage was over, the relationship was worthless and should be ended.

The class was about as mixed as Unplugged, so I'm curious to how the views differ. Malkin, that's what I was thinking too. A year of dating in high school is a long time, considering there had only been a few years of dating opportunity in those people's lives. In the context of the day's lessons, though, a year wouldn't be nearly enough time. The speaker spent the day discussing the cycle of love, how people begin in love (this period lasts up to little over a year), and then go through a difficult period where the "zing" starts to wear off and they start noticing little things that irritate them in the relationship. After this part of the cycle, they reach the "stable" relationship, which is around 2 years. It's where there's still the zing, but its no longer the entirely idealistic head-over-heels love. What she was looking for was people who hadn't experienced this whole cycle I think, because she abbreviated a lot of things expecting that we all understood it from experience. Probably at least a third of the class hadn't made it beyond the "in love" stage, though. In high school it seemed like the general mentality was that once the "in love" stage was over, the relationship was worthless and should be ended.

I was actually going to mention this cycle because I would judge a long-term relationship to be one which is in the third of those stages.

I've been with Louise for going on 5 years now.

My wife and I have known each other for 8 years and have been married for 4. We met and got married in the month of November. How's that for synchronicity?

Heh.  That is uber organized.  One could say it was perfect.   

I agree with the people that say it depends on the age and the people. I'm in high school and I've been dating a girl for 1 2/3 years. I consider that long-term for my age. Seems like someone my age could go out for just a couple months and consider it long-term.

Yeah so like Suzie and I have been together for one third of our lives.  So If you are only sixteen, and have spent 5 years, 5 months, 8 days, 9 hours and 36 minutes, with someone:  Were even!

high scool... babies running around....

Another situation altogether.....

i personally dont think that high school kids are mature enough to understand a steady relationship. Granted, hey may really care about someone (who could possibly even be a future spouse), but how many people that young really know how to love someone with out sticking their tounges down eachothers throats? with out sneaking under their parents noses to go find some special place where they can make out? Im not saying that 18 is some magical age that makes you mature, but I think that if you at least waited till you were somewhat of an adult age before letting long term relationships be a concern then youre better off.

I agree. Which is why I avoided them and then felt stupid raising my hand.

The poll is missing 1%.
40/60 is a nice split, but 40/59 just doesn't have the same neat and rounded perfection.

Better now ?

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Better now ?

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Guess not coz I just added my vote to it and it's still adding up to 99%.

9 years next May.